Do you ever remember you or your spouse doing something spontaneous and fun that actually successfully chased the gloom and anger away?
Do you remember a time when one of you was determined to remain angry at the other but something one of you did made the other person laugh?
Did it ever lead to you getting into a game? A snowball fight? A pillow fight? A tickle fight?
Did it flop sometimes? When it flopped, did it at least open up a discussion that helped bring back a little joy?
Sometimes humor can appear dismissive as if it is playing down the importance of what has gotten the other spouse into a grouchy mood. Even so, sometimes a little humor can help open up your spouses heart to talk about what is bothering him or her. And then you need to be prepared not to be oversensitive because sometimes you may feel a little grouchy, too. We all do.
What are you going to try next time around?
How are you going to cheer your spouse and yourself or your children and create good memories and good feelings about marriage and family life?